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亲历 → 温州人の婚礼
4月21日,有幸参加了一场别开生面的婚礼。新娘是曾经一起学意大利语的同窗。记得那时,我们班上一共只有九个同学。
除其中一个日本女孩子外,我们几个都是同文同种,虽然大家来自中国不同省市,但这个小小的集体将我们的心紧紧连在了一起,
半年短暂的相处让彼此之间更为了解。从此,原本在异国孤单的我们便多了一个朋友。
其实,得知 ELESA 的喜讯是在过年时的一次同学聚会上。当时真的有些惊喜,确切的说更多的是惊叹吧!因为和我同龄
的她这么早结婚是我万万没想到的~ 也许因为南北方文化差异太大,据很多南方人说:江浙地区的女孩子到了23岁(虚岁),若
是还未出嫁,不但亲朋好友担心,本人也会很着急.......虽然百思不得其解,但看到 ELESA 一脸幸福的笑容,我也衷心的祝福她,希
望他们永远恩爱,白头偕老!
婚礼是在罗马新城区EURO的SHERATON酒店举行的.这是我在意大利第一次参加婚礼.温州人结婚的排场有多大,不身临
其境,你是无法想像的。
温州人结婚,送人情可以称为“步步高”,就是你送我500欧元,我就送你1000欧元,下次我再送你1500欧元,温州人
每次逢婚礼要送给新郎新娘的红包礼金基本上可以分为以下几档:普通来宾:300—600欧元;一般朋友:500—1000欧元;熟悉
的亲朋:1000—2000欧元;
现在,一些温州人一看到结婚请柬,就眉头一皱,结婚请柬也被称为“红色炸弹”,这使得纯洁的婚姻蜕变为变了味的“金钱婚姻”。 首先现实生活告诉我们:财富是婚姻的充分不必要条件 “男人追逐财富,女人通过追逐男人来追逐财富。”这句在温州颇为流行的“民间俗语”,被人称为是“金钱婚姻”存在的基础
之一。本来,希望嫁一个有钱的老公,乃人之常情。如今,娱乐界明星甚至是一些政界高官的子女,都在想办法嫁入豪门,与富翁联
姻,更不用说希望通过婚姻改变自己命运的一般女孩子。
有社会学家认为,财富在婚姻的天平上究竟能起多大的作用,这个问题值得深思。财富在婚姻中起着重要作用,但财富只是
婚姻中的一个充分条件,而不是必要条件。所以财富与婚姻并不能等同起来。
☜分开の旅行☞ 分开 ![]()
那时我们爱得很单纯,不懂得忧愁。慢慢真正进入了社会,才明白生活并不是一件容易的事。而对幸福的渴望,却依然那么强烈。我承认,偶尔难免沮丧,心中的期待总是填不满。人活着,就难免会孤单,会彷徨,伤心,难过。想得太多总是没结果。 人说知足常乐,也许我就是犯了不知足的毛病吧....... 又开始了一个人的旅行。一路上,一个人静静的边走边看,看得更多,听得更多,领悟得也更多了。我为旅途里那份自由闲散心动不已,但心里的念头却始终维系在你身上。想着我们过去的点点滴滴,想着你在做什么,是不是也一样想念着我?即使走得再远,放不下的仍然是你。或许是我太傻,非要走很长很远的路才知道最想去的地方是你怀里。我们到底为了什么而争执,又是为什么决定了这次要分开旅行?我都快不记得了。只知道,现在,我很想你。
旅行会结束,而生活却不会因此而止步。我依然希望心无旁骛的朝前走,也依然希望有缘分再牵你的手。我想我们同样会有争吵和斗气的时候,但这些小摩擦也是幸福的一部分。因为和相爱的人走过的每一步都是幸福。眼泪,微笑全都是幸福的重量。这重量支撑着我们去追寻前方未知的成果。 路要继续,也许等到的结果会是另一个命运的延伸......如果真的有一天,我们迷失在各自的旅途中,再也回不到起点.......我不会再问,谁对谁错就让它随爱一起放飞。就像你说的,我们都应该相信缘分....... “有没有那么一首歌,会让你轻轻跟着哼.....” 也许,正是所谓:对的人出现在了错误的时间。 Word Of Wisdom
走自己的路,让别人打车去吧![转载]别人空间里看到的~ 惊佩!惊佩!! 走自己的路,让别人打车去吧!
What is love?What is love ?
The eternal question we all carry around deep within our heart. Love is the eternal search. Love is eternal when we find it. But do we really ever find it? When we define it do we negate it? When we set limits on what we belive to be love do we begin to destroy it by hoping to understand or own it for ourselves? We offer it through all of our relationship we vary our giving,often by what we hope to receive in return. But is this really love?
爱是什么?这是所有人心底一个永恒的问题。爱,是永恒的寻觅。爱一旦被找到,它也将变为永恒。但是我们真地找到过爱吗?当我们定义爱的同时,是否也在否定爱呢?在给我所认为的爱加种种限制的同时,在我们想将它据为己有时,我们是否也在破坏它呢?我们将爱施与周围的人,同时期望得到回报。但这是真正的爱吗?
I recently overheard someone say in a conversation that there is no such thing as " unconditional love" I would have to agree, although for different reasons. Love within itself is unconditional. Anything else is only an attempt to love, a learning to get us nearer to the one true knowing of love. It may be honorable, wellintentioned, passionate and desiring, courageous and pure. It may be felt as temporary, but if lost easily it may not have been love at all. Love cannot be thwarted and often fall short of what we hope love will be. This is where we learn we are human.
最近,我无意间听别人说,世上没有所谓的“无条件的爱”。在此,我不得不表示同意。尽管理由不尽相同,但爱本身却是无条件的。其他一切都仅仅是爱的一种尝试。通过它们去逐渐的理解爱的真谛。爱可能是高贵善意的,是充满热情和渴望的,是勇敢和纯洁的;爱也可能是短暂的,但若能轻易消逝,它可能原本就不是爱!爱是势不可挡的,而且常常达不到我们的期望值。由此我们可以透察人性。
Love has been experienced as being the very notes of song,uplifting and generous to the wanting ear. Love has been experienced as the final act of giving one's life for another in battle. Love has been experienced as choosing to give new life to another. Love has been experienced as an endless passionate over flow of emotion in the arms of waiting lover.
爱的经历就像一首鲜活灵动的诗;爱的经历就像一个个美妙动听的音符,让期盼的双耳得到振奋、满足;爱的经历就象战场上舍己救人的一幕;爱的经历就像赋予人新生的选择;爱的经历就像依偎在期盼已久的爱人的臂弯时所流露出的无尽爱意。
What do you do with the love granted to you each day? How many times do we deny its expression for others because we fear what our own expressions will bring? Are we not denying our creator every time we deny the expression of love?
你是怎样对待每天给于你的那些爱呢?有多少次害怕被拒绝,我们未能向他人表达爱意?在每次拒绝爱的表白之时,难道我们不是在拒绝造物主的恩赐吗?
Lost, empty, alone and searching. As individuals who have experienced separation or divorce,or even the loss of a loved one to death,the separation can be the most traumatic experience we live through. The heart-wrenching pain that hit us daily,the times we hit the wall right after a strong and uplifting experience reminds us that own life,about our own sincerity in our beliefs,about our loyalty to who we are,and certainly about our own genuineness. We search for that day when love will come again. We search everywhere,everyday,almost every hour.
迷茫,空虚,孤独,寻觅。对于那些经历过分别、离异,甚至失去过爱人的人来说,这样的离别乃是生命中最大的伤痛。揪心的伤痛仿佛永无止境。生活中的挫折和磨难无时无刻不在提醒着我们:我们处在认知的过程中,我们正在认识自己生命的力量和激情;认识对信仰,对自我的忠贞;认识自己的本性。我们期待真爱重回的那一天,我们每时每刻都在每个角落寻觅。
It has been said for centuries that " love is where the eyes meet with passion, for the eyes cannot hide what the heart feels." So we have learned to look outward for this eternal love that will fulfill us, forgetting that it must first fill our own heart. Perhaps that is why we fall into such pain and agony and sorrow when a love affair fails. It is at that moment that we realize we did not fail the other person we expressed love to, but we have somehow not fulfilled ourselves once again. We combat failure with a misunderstood unfulfilled promise. We lose it, not knowing if we will ever find it again. The emotion tides lift and fall, crash and settle, then lift again.
几个世纪以来,我们一直在说:“爱就是充满激情的目光相遇,因为眼睛掩饰不住内心的真实感受。”因此我们都学会了向外看,去寻找那份永恒的能使自己充实起来的爱,却忽略了它首先应占据我们自己的内心领地。或许,这就是当一段恋情受挫时,我们会如此痛苦和悲伤的原因。此时我们才意识到,用误解且无法兑现的承诺来抵制失败,我们终将失去爱。不知是否能再次找回它。感情的潮水起伏不定,时而汹涌,时而平和。继而会再次澎湃。
No one else, no matter how much we talk or cry, can pull us through the anxious hours of soul repair and growth. It is our own fire within that needs rekindling, guarding against the winds that would blow it out and leave us dark, cold and helpless. It is at this time that we find the love that binds us together with every other being that surrounds us on the planet. Eventually we find the sun still rises to meet in the morning and the stars continue to show us the way each night. The rivers still flow downstream into oceans that will never turn them away. The trees still reach upward every day praising the God that made them. We stand up straight and take a lesson from it all.
无论我们说了多少话,流了多少泪。没有人能帮助我们度过心灵修复的阴霾与成长过程中的绵绵阴雨。我们的心灵之火需要再燃,需要呵护,不至让自己被黑暗、阴冷和无助所包围。此时我们便找到把我们与周围每个生命联系在一起的那份爱。我们终会发现,太阳依然升起,迎接黎明的到来。星光依然闪烁,指引我们夜行的方向。江河依然汇入百川。树木依然向上生长,歌颂赋予它生命的上苍。我们挺直身躯,从这一切中汲取教训。
What if you woke up one morning and realized that you were the only person left on the face of the earth? Who would love? Who do we wait so long to start the journey that begins in the same place that it ends? Love,in all its endlessness,unboundedness and failed definitions is this experience.
如果某天早晨你来,发现这个世界上只剩下你一人。你当如何应对?你去爱谁?我们为何要等如此长的时间,才在终点开始新的旅程?这是一次无边无境,无从定义的爱之旅。
Love dosen't ask why. It dosen't come. It dosen't go. It just is. It is not only in our hands,it is our hands. It isn't only in our heart,it is what makes our heart beat every beat. It wraps itself around us so securely that all we need to do to survive against all odds is to recognize it as the very breath we just drew,and the last breath we just let go.
爱不问理由,它不会走近你,也不会远离你。爱始终存在着。它不仅在我们的手中,更是我们的双手。它不仅在我们的心里,更是我们每一次心跳的动力。爱将我们包围,那感觉如同每一次真切的呼吸。心中有爱,一切困难都可以超越。
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